"There's More To Forget 2: Drama, Drama, Drama"
“Let's encourage our minds to remember those re-assuring moments that have granted us success, enlightenment, pleasure and peace. We've all had them, and that's what deserves the focus, moving forward!”
Forgetting is definitely not always a bad thing. Some things are better off forgotten. Just take a moment to pause and reflect on the many ‘things’ that you have a memory of right now that would be a blessing from Life to forget.
No, really… Stop reading for a moment and actually think about it… I can wait.
What good is it to the soul, mind and body to hoard the skid loads of negative thoughts, feelings and experiences of life in your memory? Besides learned lessons and gained strength (if any) there’s no other growth to acquire from that baggage of troubles. Offer it any more extended-stay mental lodging after that and it starts to rob you of valuable time and critical thought-space. It could be unresolved conflicts with others, hateful thoughts and feelings towards those you have to co-exist with, trauma of the past, phobias and fears, etc. For some it’s tons of premeditated lies, hustles, plots and con-artist schemes, planned out and posted up in the memory banks waiting for an opportunity. Oh, how the mind is a terrible thing to waste. Stop it, Bruh.
But of course it doesn’t stop there. How much of our memory banks are littered with some mess that makes no logical sense, that we randomly picked up from lil JJ; or from some obscure channel on YouTube? There’s also those things we have prematurely reached a conclusion on and foolishly committed them to memory, but we are simply dead wrong about. Sometimes we even rely on these bogus conclusions as facts of life and philosophies to live by. We make decisions and life choices based on them. We deal with people based on faulty and shady conclusions trapped in our memory archive. Then what happens? Problems of course. More drama for the memory filters to sift through. It gets worse when you find yourself engaging in arguments, defending something you are wrong about. Martin, I didn’t know, looking ass! For some this is a regular thing. And what’s the results? What is gained? More hurt and conflict for us all. Another silly tard-faced argument, leaving behind more negativity for the memory banks to filter through and make room for. But, ironically, we can’t remember how it got that way or figure out what’s causing it. I wonder why… Nothing but toxic waste cluttering and clouding the brain processors and memory banks. Holy psychological trash compactors batman! I could keep naming stuff all day, but I think the point is made. Take a deep, relieving sigh if most of this does not apply to you. Or if it did at some point in the past but you’ve already addressed it and rose above. One thing is for sure. If it’s not us doing it, it’s definitely too much of it, in one form or another, being played out around us. By those in the too near distant; or those we have no choice but to live with or deal with every freaking day. SMH. Dare to be honest and reflect for a moment on what yours are? What debilitating negatives have you been harmfully committing to memory, playing out and struggling with?
Some of us commit so much negativity to memory, and hoard it for so long, that it begins to breed and take on a life of it’s own. The mind, under siege, starts auto-expanding on the already traumatic events, adding and committing new negative events to memory that didn’t even happen! It did if you ask the drama hoarders though. Do we train our mind (and heart) to fabricate trauma for itself? The cerebral alarms have been going off for years! Maybe we forgot to listen! If we hadn’t, we probably would’ve heard something like this in our heads a long time ago…
Some of us always seem to remember that harsh, ego penetrating statement that so and so said to us five months ago. It comes up often doesn’t it? In the mind or aloud. When you’re alone or when you’re chatting with whomever is listening. But for some reason you can’t remember that bible scripture from last night, or what you were supposed to get from the store for your friend, or those mathematical formulas that would enhance your critical thinking skills to save your life! I wonder why… Contrary to popular opinion, conflict is way more convoluting to the mental circuits than mathematics will ever be. By default. But our mind and memory system will gradually restructure itself. Adapting to what we’ve made important to us. Choose wisely.
We also have a tendency to forget stuff we did wrong much easier than we forget what somebody else did to us. Hm. Wonder what that’s about. Bias, ego and more? Again, the memory process is possibly making calculated decisions on what to ignore, delete and keep based on what holds value or importance to your conscious. And quite blatantly, the wrong you do to others is simply not as relevant as the wrong that happens to you. Go figure.
What are we gonna do with all this mental mayhem that keeps resonating through our life experience? I’m not insisting that we should forget every bad thing that has happened to us, necessarily. People who love to f**k over you would have a field day with that one. Corrupt leaders would love for the world to adapt such a philosophy. I am suggesting to take a different look at all this, with some clarity and unbiased objectivity, for starters. And if you are not going to face whatever or whomever it is that is constantly bothering your mind, why reserve space in your memory for it and permanently live with something harmful that has no resolve? It makes no qualitative sense. Either address it with maturity to kill it, or f***ing drop it already, will ya?
From my view, most of the mental drama we house is straight garbage, anyway. It doesn’t even contain any needed lessons or strengths to gain. Often times, we make them up to cover for the BS and give it a reason to stick around. Keep it in there and it starts to interfere with memories of the uplifting times you’ve had, whether few or many. It’s unhealthy to house drama filled thoughts that interfere with remembering our moments of clarity. Isn’t it time to break the habit? We’d rather remember those times when our potential shined; Or those moments of growth that made us victorious through times of gloom, right? Everybody claims that’s what they want and stand for, right? Well now, let’s embark on a little separating of the wheat from the tare, shall we? You can’t wait on those around you anymore. Take a lil action and share this with them. Invite them to The Cipher to help massage the mind and get the circuits resuscitating. Do you really want to break free and see things be better? If so, BE the change that you know we need! You’ve got my support, if nothing else at the moment! So you can cancel the riffraff. Now let’s instead begin to encourage our minds to remember those re-assuring moments that have granted us success, enlightenment, pleasure and peace. You know, the memories that we can build on that hold the keys to a better future. We’ve all had them, and that’s what deserves the focus, moving forward!
If you landed on this page and made it this far, you may want to backup and check out Part 1. Don’t worry, I saved it. 🙂
This is the second entry of this series. To view the first installment of this series, go here.
To continue on collecting change, check out Part 3.
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Another well done, deep rooted master piece. Helping us see we need to “FORGET” a lot of things. Things such as you mentioned in this article, like hurtful and painful things. Things that will and can stop your growth in life. Things that will and can “STAGNATE” your ability to help others, and especially yourself! As you mentioned, those things stick to you like another skin, but not the “AWESOME” feel good, helpful positive things. Things that can and will help you and others! I know quite a few people who make themselves subject to NEVER “FORGETTING” the ugly stuff, so they can have everyone they come in contact with seeing them as the “VICTIM”! Poor babies, did you get hurt? SMH, They are sickening to the fullest of the fullest. You will sooner or later peep their game and Skedaddle from them with the quickness! Real talk, who wants to be around a person or persons that carry the victim mentality germ? NOT ME!! They “FORGET” about the positive heart warming thoughts. As if they love being in that state of mind. Being a victim. I myself believe they do. You also have the type that hold on to this kind of thinking due to the “FACT” that nothing else can get into their “NARCISSISTIC” minds. No room for nothing else to enter; Other than something that won’t bring them out of that lonely cold dark place. Am I right? You know the kind of people I mean. You most likely have a few in your family. That I’m sure about. I do for sure! My goodness, they can go deeper into the not “FORGETTING” phase by rejecting wisdom such as this! No brag, but I have always had a remedy for such a thing as that not “FORGETTING” thing. Whenever I get into a dilemma like that, where I can’t “FORGET” something useless, harmful or unproductive. My mind won’t allow me to hold on to that thing to long. Automatically my mind starts fighting that thing. I won’t rest until I flush it into the lake of “FORGETFULNESS” Anyway I can. Until it’s gone! No rest for me until that happens. Beautiful, Constructive, Loving, Blessed Thoughts I hold on to tight!
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The other side of this was getting older. They put this crap out that when you “FORGET” in your elder years, You have Alzheimer’s or Dementia! So I fell victim to that “LIE”. Until your “Thesis” UD! I thank God for you and your problem solving mind. You will help a lot of people pull themselves out of all the “LIES” we have been bombarded with! I’m breathing a sigh of relief! WHEW, Once again you have put this elder on the right track, road, whatever, I’m there. I’m going to stop here because every time I read one of your Articles or Ciphers, I could go on for days giving my input! Big Smile, seriously, I mean it!!!
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Another Thank You, UD. You did it again, PEACE! Can’t wait to read “INTENT”!! Bless You!
KEEP THE WISDOM COMING!!! IT’S NEEDED MUCH!!
Thank you for writing this. Sometimes we have a tendency to also hang onto and relive the harm we have done others where it becomes a nightmare within our own minds. I sometimes have “shame spirals” where I remember the bad shit but forget the blessings in life and fail to be grateful. I need to be still and take stock of what’s really there. Thanks again for posting.
Hm. Despite popular theory, there is no blessing and gratefulness about harm and suffering. Not as far as I am concerned, at least. You are likely not “re-living” these harms inflicted. They have never left or died to begin with. You will HAVE to continuously deal with the harms you’ve inflicted on others until you correct them, resolve them and replace them if possible. If the being themselves allows this, there are many ways to achieve this, but most people refuse to challenge the problem. This goes for the harmer AND harmee most of the time. Even if the being that has been harmed has died or refuses the correction, and therefore the culprit cannot correct the harm they have done to them directly, there are still ways to clean up and replace the suffering that has been injected into the world. Then afterwards you can have something to be grateful for. Otherwise, a spiral of shame and suffering will always exist. You can soak yourself in shallowness or anything else that will sweep it under the rug and help you pretend it is gone. But it is still there and will remain, in one form or another, until dealt with. SO get to work! 😉