Forgetting is definitely not always a bad thing. Some things are better off forgotten. Just take a moment to pause and reflect on the many ‘things’ that you have a memory of right now that would be a blessing from Life to forget.

No, really… Stop reading for a moment and actually think about it… I can wait.

What good is it to the soul, mind and body to hoard the skid loads of negative thoughts, feelings and experiences of life in your memory? Besides learned lessons and gained strength (if any) there’s no other growth to acquire from that baggage of troubles. Offer it any more extended-stay mental lodging after that and it starts to rob you of valuable time and critical thought-space. It could be unresolved conflicts with others, hateful thoughts and feelings towards those you have to co-exist with, trauma of the past, phobias and fears, etc. For some it’s tons of premeditated lies, hustles, plots and con-artist schemes, planned out and posted up in the memory banks waiting for an opportunity. Oh, how the mind is a terrible thing to waste. Stop it, Bruh.

But of course it doesn’t stop there. How much of our memory banks are littered with some mess that makes no logical sense, that we randomly picked up from lil JJ; or from some obscure channel on YouTube? There’s also those things we have prematurely reached a conclusion on and foolishly committed them to memory, but we are simply dead wrong about. Sometimes we even rely on these bogus conclusions as facts of life and philosophies to live by. We make decisions and life choices based on them. We deal with people based on faulty and shady conclusions trapped in our memory archive. Then what happens? Problems of course. More drama for the memory filters to sift through. It gets worse when you find yourself engaging in arguments, defending something you are wrong about. Martin, I didn’t know, looking ass! For some this is a regular thing. And what’s the results? What is gained? More hurt and conflict for us all. Another silly tard-faced argument, leaving behind more negativity for the memory banks to filter through and make room for. But, ironically, we can’t remember how it got that way or figure out what’s causing it. I wonder why… Nothing but toxic waste cluttering and clouding the brain processors and memory banks. Holy psychological trash compactors batman! I could keep naming stuff all day, but I think the point is made. Take a deep, relieving sigh if most of this does not apply to you. Or if it did at some point in the past but you’ve already addressed it and rose above. One thing is for sure. If it’s not us doing it, it’s definitely too much of it, in one form or another, being played out around us. By those in the too near distant; or those we have no choice but to live with or deal with every freaking day. SMH. Dare to be honest and reflect for a moment on what yours are? What debilitating negatives have you been harmfully committing to memory, playing out and struggling with?

Some of us commit so much negativity to memory, and hoard it for so long, that it begins to breed and take on a life of it’s own. The mind, under siege, starts auto-expanding on the already traumatic events, adding and committing new negative events to memory that didn’t even happen! It did if you ask the drama hoarders though. Do we train our mind (and heart) to fabricate trauma for itself? The cerebral alarms have been going off for years! Maybe we forgot to listen! If we hadn’t, we probably would’ve heard something like this in our heads a long time ago…

Some of us always seem to remember that harsh, ego penetrating statement that so and so said to us five months ago. It comes up often doesn’t it? In the mind or aloud. When you’re alone or when you’re chatting with whomever is listening. But for some reason you can’t remember that bible scripture from last night, or what you were supposed to get from the store for your friend, or those mathematical formulas that would enhance your critical thinking skills to save your life! I wonder why… Contrary to popular opinion, conflict is way more convoluting to the mental circuits than mathematics will ever be. By default. But our mind and memory system will gradually restructure itself. Adapting to what we’ve made important to us. Choose wisely.

We also have a tendency to forget stuff we did wrong much easier than we forget what somebody else did to us. Hm. Wonder what that’s about. Bias, ego and more? Again, the memory process is possibly making calculated decisions on what to ignore, delete and keep based on what holds value or importance to your conscious. And quite blatantly, the wrong you do to others is simply not as relevant as the wrong that happens to you. Go figure.

What are we gonna do with all this mental mayhem that keeps resonating through our life experience? I’m not insisting that we should forget every bad thing that has happened to us, necessarily. People who love to f**k over you would have a field day with that one. Corrupt leaders would love for the world to adapt such a philosophy. I am suggesting to take a different look at all this, with some clarity and unbiased objectivity, for starters. And if you are not going to face whatever or whomever it is that is constantly bothering your mind, why reserve space in your memory for it and permanently live with something harmful that has no resolve? It makes no qualitative sense. Either address it with maturity to kill it, or f***ing drop it already, will ya?

From my view, most of the mental drama we house is straight garbage, anyway. It doesn’t even contain any needed lessons or strengths to gain. Often times, we make them up to cover for the BS and give it a reason to stick around. Keep it in there and it starts to interfere with memories of the uplifting times you’ve had, whether few or many. It’s unhealthy to house drama filled thoughts that interfere with remembering our moments of clarity. Isn’t it time to break the habit? We’d rather remember those times when our potential shined; Or those moments of growth that made us victorious through times of gloom, right? Everybody claims that’s what they want and stand for, right? Well now, let’s embark on a little separating of the wheat from the tare, shall we? You can’t wait on those around you anymore. Take a lil action and share this with them. Invite them to The Cipher to help massage the mind and get the circuits resuscitating. Do you really want to break free and see things be better? If so, BE the change that you know we need! You’ve got my support, if nothing else at the moment! So you can cancel the riffraff. Now let’s instead begin to encourage our minds to remember those re-assuring moments that have granted us success, enlightenment, pleasure and peace. You know, the memories that we can build on that hold the keys to a better future. We’ve all had them, and that’s what deserves the focus, moving forward!